If you’re in the middle of forgiving someone right now you may or may not like what I am about to say, but please just hear me out!
Most people are forgiving “half-assed”.
It’s like they try to forgive but they never really actually forgive (& let it go). Here are the three steps that need to happen:
(enjoy the video version)
1. Forgive Someone For Their Actions
What we’re often doing is trying to forgive someone for their actions, which is part of the forgiveness process but it is incomplete.
2. Thank The Person For The Lessons They Taught You
The second step of forgiveness is being able to recognize and thank that person for the lessons that they’ve taught you. Because if that person wasn’t an asshole maybe you wouldn’t have had that Ah-ha moment. Or the opportunity to stand up for yourself.
If that situation didn’t go down the way that it did maybe you wouldn’t be the person that you are today.
From every situation there are pros and cons that happen. To fully forgive, I believe that we need to also thank that person for playing that role and for giving you those learnings. BTW, you don’t need to actually thank them (this can be done with just intention).
If you’re in the middle of forgiveness right now or the early stages, you may not be able to hear this yet, this may be a later stage for you.
3. Forgive Yourself
The final step of true healing and forgiveness is to forgive the part of you that allowed that situation to happen. For you to be out of your power or to say yes when you meant to say no or to have put yourself in that situation.
A series of your life events, choices, & insecurities led you to where you were for that situation to happen. I want to encourage you to consider is how can you give yourself forgiveness for creating that situation. For having the need for that situation to happen to learn something from.
I believe that you create your life
you create what happens to you…
to learn, to grow, to shift your life where its meant to go.
Where You Can Start:
True forgiveness and true understanding of how we create the situations that we create requires that we understand ourselves. Download my Self Understanding Starter Kit to help you to begin to understand yourself because that is going to be the key to how and why you would have attracted or brought the situation you did into your life.
For me I play this game of responsibility at 100%. It has transformed my life in significant ways (even with trauma).
Download the kit for free because the more you understand you the more you understand why your life and the people around you do the things that they do as well. They’re all players in your journey.
I would love for you to share in the comments below which one of these three steps do you feel is going to be most important for you?
MAKE IT A GREAT DAY,