The guilt that women experience.
The way that they feel like they HAVE to do things or they SHOULD do things…
controls and dictates almost their entire life!
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A quick history lesson:
Women have been forced to do things and controlled for years. So, not only is this is a behavior of the individuals and the women of today’s world, but it is deep within our cellular memory. We are literally wires to feel like we HAVE to & SHOULD do things. Over the decades, we have been pulled, bought, and controlled in various ways which is still impacting modern women today.
As women, standing up and individually breaking this pattern in our own life and taking our power back, not only releases you from it’s control, but serves to release women around the globe!
A teacher that I used to work with she said, “Janelle, every single time you step over one of your boundaries of what you want to do and what feels good for you, you are breaking your own damn heart.”
This hit home for me. How many women are doing this every single day, all day long, & for their entire lives….
The disconnect and the abuse relationship that they end up forming with themselves, the lack of trust that they develop in themselves, & the lack of self honoring is…atrocious!
How can we begin, as women, to hold our boundaries?
To say yes for what works for us and to say no for what doesn’t.
One of the reasons that we often don’t honour our no, is because we’re worried what someone’s gonna think or say, or how it might impact someone else…
The gift and curse of women is that we care so much about other people.
Here’s the thing, the other women that would say something or judge you for taking care of yourself and saying no when something isn’t a fit for you…those women are also in this trap!
the only reason they’re judging you, or saying anything is because they’re in this belief and trap. They also “should” all over themselves and doing things that they don’t wanna do.
They’re dishonoring themselves constantly.
REMEMBER, we judge people for the behaviors that we do as well. When you break out of this trap, you don’t just break out of it for you… you help the women in your life to also break out of it.
One of the biggest complaints that I hear from women is that their lives don’t even feel like their own. They’re doing things for everyone else & putting everyone else’s needs before themselves.
The only way to STOP doing that, is for you to stop doing it.
If you keep running over your boundaries, if you are the one who’s always saying yes when really it’s a no for you…
everyone else is gonna take advantage of that!
It is our individual responsibility to take care of ourselves and to hold our own boundaries.
Go grab my Self Understanding Starter Kit because when you hold that boundary and when you say no… of course you’re gonna feel guilty or like you have done something wrong. But, this is the training process. The kit is going to help you remind yourself and train your mind and body that:
It is okay to say no.
It is okay to protect yourself.
It is okay to stand up for yourself.
Unfortunately, what often happens is so many women are used to people running over their boundaries, and these women just doing whatever they think that they need to do for other people;
that the way we tend to hold our boundaries up, is by being a BITCH!
We tend to hold our boundaries up by having to get downright rude and angry.
There is another way.
It’s actually just self honoring and self protecting.
When you aren’t constantly doing that old pattern anymore, you don’t feel the need to have these explosive outbursts of. You no longer need to allow yourself to live in the boiling point…
I would love to hear in the comments below:
what is one boundary that you really need to uphold?
What is it that you need to start saying no to?
MAKE IT A GREAT DAY,